About six weeks ago, I was on vacation in our neighboring state of Wisconsin. I entered into a conversation with an older woman whom I did not know. She asked me where I was from, and I told her “White Bear Lake, Minnesota.” She replied that she had only been to White Bear Lake one time, but that she really liked it. She said that she especially appreciated that somehow we had managed to keep (and these are her words) “the negroes and the Jews out of town.”
As you may imagine, I was a bit taken aback by her words. I didn’t quite know what to say, but not wanting to make the situation even more uncomfortable, I mumbled something lame to the effect that we actually have folks of all stripes in our community and, by golly, we do have a lovely lake.
Since that time, however, I have been internally dealing with the shame I feel regarding my response to this woman’s blatantly racist and anti-semitic statement. Why wasn’t I more bold in expressing my disdain for her words? Why did I, in that moment, choose to respond politely rather than courageously?
We are living in immensely challenging times. On a daily basis, words are being spoken and actions are being taken that directly confront our understanding of what it means to be an American, what this country is all about, even what human decency looks like. It seems to me that there is an assault on the values that followers of Jesus espouse: truth, justice, mercy, compassion, kindness. I don’t know, maybe the attack on these basic Christian values has always been there, just underneath the surface, but my goodness, lately the intensity of the assault has become red hot.
Now, listen, I have been a priest in the church for a long time. We have folks here at St. John’s who are on all sides of the political spectrum. Our community has people who have opinions about all sorts of things. It’s part of my job to keep the whole kit and caboodle from flying apart. So I know how important tact can be. I know that it’s sometimes the wisest thing to just stay silent and walk away. But I also know that there are other times when truthful words need to be spoken and bold deeds of peace and love need to be taken. And speaking those words and doing those deeds takes guts.
Jane Goodall, the renowned British primatologist, ethologist, and anthropologist, who died recently once said, “what you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.” One of the reasons why I continue to be part of the Christian clan is that I believe that the Way of Jesus is a way to make a good difference in this world. What we say and what we do matters. Together, we have immense power to do much good, to really lean into what we believe about the Kingdom of God. But to do that, to truly live into the Way of Jesus, we need to be courageous.
So, I exhort you to be kind but courageous, civil but truthful, friendly but people of integrity. I wish I could go back two weeks and respond differently to that woman whose perception of what we folks here in White Bear Lake are all about. If I could have a do-over, I would inform that woman that in this town, we do, indeed, have a lovely lake, but that we also strive for justice and peace for Jews, for African Americans, for women, for LGBTQ folk, and for all people. I would kindly but directly tell that woman that here in White Bear Lake, we respect the dignity of every human being.
~Art